Lesley’s Hair Loss Journey: Breaking the Silence

Lesley’s Hair Loss Journey: Breaking the Silence

Lesley had always been known for her beautiful hair—thick, healthy, and effortlessly stylish. But in her mid-50s, as menopause set in, she began to notice changes. Her once-full hair started thinning, gradually at first, then more noticeably. Like many women in the UK, Lesley found herself facing not just hair loss, but also a wall of silence around it. Conversations were scarce, support was limited, and solutions often felt hidden or hush-hush. Refusing to accept that shame should be part of the process, Lesley began her journey not just to reclaim her confidence, but to challenge the culture of secrecy. Today, she’s on a mission to bring hair loss into the open—one honest conversation at a time.

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June 06, 2025 — Anna Lewis
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Help! How do I make my wig less wiggy?

The whole point of wearing a wig for most of us is to feel just as beautiful and confident as you did when you had a full head of natural hair, and that is hard to do if you’re worried about strangers whispering, “Is that a wig?” at the office, the grocery store, party or worse still, when meeting someone new. When meeting someone new or preparing for a special occasion, you don’t want to be worrying about your wig.

A good wig is an investment so taking the time to learn before we buy is important. Here are some tips from the experts, information that I have gathered, read, and live by.  

1. Replace Your Wig Regularly

The best way to broadcast to the world that you’re wearing a wig is to wear an old ratty-looking wig. Unfortunately, no one has invented a wig that grows new hair yet, so we’re stuck with wigs that lose their quality over time. No matter how hard you wish, no amount of wig styling products or cap adjustments can save a wig that’s past its prime.

Plan to replace your synthetic wigs every 3 to 6 months and your human hair wigs every 6 to 12 months. Use your judgment based on your individual wear patterns.

 2. Rooted Colors

Unless you naturally have very dark hair, it’s unlikely that your hair is just one color. Most people have shades of color and gradients (dimension) throughout their hair.

Wigs with one flat color just look fake or look like a bad color job. Wigs with rooted colors, on the other hand, mimic the natural gradients in bio hair by blending several colors.

If you can’t find a wig that you like with rooted colors look for a wig that is a ‘blend’ of two colors or ask a stylist to give your wig highlights and lowlights two shades away from the wig’s base color. (Don’t try this at home if you don’t have training!)

3. Lace Fronts and Monofilament Tops

Lace front wigs create the illusion of a natural hairline, making it look like your wig hair is growing right out of your head. Monofilament tops do the same thing, but for the wig’s part. Each hair of a monofilament top wig is individually sewn into the wig, rather than being machine applied. This allows the wig hair to move freely and lets you part the wig anywhere you want.

4. Mess Up That Part

When something looks too perfect, especially with wigs, it’s usually a sign that it’s fake. Wig companies could and should do a better job with this in my view.

Most wigs come out of the box with eerily perfect parts. 

As soon as your new wig arrives, take a pair of tweezers, and carefully pluck out a few strands. Then, using baby scissors, cut a few strands so that they look like they’re just growing out. Last, choose a couple of hairs to place on the ‘wrong' side of the part. (Again, don’t try this at home unless you feel comfortable with your skills.)

5. Trim Your Wig

Or not—but take it to your stylist and get it shaped up to better flatter your face. Some of us have the skill set to do this ourselves, but some of us (uh, me) do not. 

6. Blend it Out

If you have some natural hair, try ‘blending’ your natural hairline with the hairline of a lace front wig—as follows: 

 

  • Place your wig an inch or two farther back on your head than you typically would, exposing your natural hairline.
  • Fully attach the wig to keep it steady and from moving too much.
  • pray a little dry shampoo into your hairline and along the wig part line and use your fingers to tease everything together.
  • Mimicking your own edges is one major key to achieving a flawless illusion. It keeps people guessing.

 

NOTE: If you’re going to try this trick, it’s important that your wig color matches your natural hair color.

 7. Know Your Size

We’ve all seen the instructions on how to do this and seen the charts on how to determine your cap size. If you are still in doubt look for videos that show how to do this. It’s easier than trying to read the steps. There are many good instruction videos out and cap size charts are easy to find. 

8. (For wig Newbies) ALWAYS—line up your wig with your natural hairline. 

If you don’t line up your wig with your natural hairline, your wig will never look natural. That’s why it’s so important that each time you put on your wig, you take the time to line it up properly.

To correctly line up your wig with your natural hairline:

  • First, put your wig on your forehead just above your eyebrows.
  • Next, slowly slide the wig back over your head, adjusting as you go, until the bottom of the wig hits the nape of your next.
  • Last, slide the wig forward just a bit until it hits your natural hairline, and secure it in the way you have chosen.

 

If you have been wearing wigs for a while you have your preferences in place most likely. You love or don’t love heat-friendly wigs; you can’t go without a lace front maybe; you must have a mono top or rooted color—the list goes on. Each wig type, fiber, cap, style, has its own footprint. You may well know the good and the challenges for each type. But whether you must have human hair, heat friendly or not, there always seems to be one question: How do I take the shine out of synthetic wigs without washing them so much? Also, know as: 

 

 How to Make a Synthetic Wig Look Real

  • In addition to the other things mentioned before (picking one with blended colors, rooted if you like that, there are some additional things you can do while waiting on that shine to go away through washing. *Apply some dry shampoo or talcum powder to the wig but use a light hand at first. You can always add more if needed but it’s hard to take it out without having to wash your wig if you overdo it. And of course, washing your wig more than necessary is something you will want to avoid. 

So, until next time --- keep your wigs looking “real” not wiggy. And stop & smell the flowers!

Vickie Lynn