Hair has always been part of how we present ourselves to the world. For me, losing mine to Alopecia Areata (AA) was devastating. I started experiencing bald spots that spread and grew larger until I could no longer hide them with sprays and powders. Eventually, my condition progressed into Alopecia Universalis (AU)—complete hair loss, including my eyebrows, eyelashes, and all body hair.
The Emotional Weight of Hair Loss
I worked in an office during the early stages of my hair loss and had to put on a brave face every day. I was constantly self-conscious, always wondering if others could see my bald spots or knew I was wearing a wig. I never discussed my condition with colleagues, so every time someone casually mentioned my hair, I’d feel a wave of anxiety.
But eventually, I found peace with wigs. And not just peace—confidence. I’ve come to enjoy the experience of having a full head of beautiful hair again. Recently, I even stepped outside of my comfort zone and bought a style completely different from my usual go-to. That felt like a milestone.
Finding Support
Only a few close friends and immediate family members know about my hair loss. They've all been incredibly supportive, which I’m so grateful for—but to this day, I’m still not entirely comfortable sharing my story openly.
I’ve made a lot of good friends through the hair loss community and support groups. I now feel confident and content with how I look. That sense of connection and understanding from others going through similar experiences has made a huge difference in how I see myself.
A Day I’ll Never Forget
The most emotionally challenging moment for me was my son’s wedding. I had just lost all my hair a few months prior and was still adjusting to my new appearance. I spent weeks worrying that people would notice something “off” and question why I looked so different.
I tried to stay calm and mentally prepare myself, but when it came time to take photos, the anxiety came rushing back. Despite all my fears, the pictures turned out beautiful, and the day was nothing short of magical. That moment helped me realize that I looked like me—and maybe even a better version.
What I’ve Learned Along the Way
There are a few things I wish I had known when I started this journey:
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• You can look like yourself again—or even better.
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• Measure your head for the right fit and research cap styles. A good fit makes all the difference.
- • Ignore what others may think. This journey is about you.
One small but powerful moment that never fails to lift my spirits is when someone compliments my hair. They have no idea it’s a wig, and I no longer feel the need to explain.
The Good, the Bad, and the Itchy
Wearing wigs has been truly life-changing. I love the convenience of always having styled hair and how quickly I can get ready. But of course, it’s not all perfect. The hard part is when a favorite wig starts to wear out and needs replacing. And let’s be honest—the only “ugly” is when your wig gets itchy and all you want to do is rip it off the second you walk through the door.
I have picked up a few tricks along the way:
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Cut baby hairs around the hairline and sideburns for a more natural look.
My Favorite Styles
For years, my go-to wig was Petite Paige by Envy, a sleek straight bob with bangs. My natural bio hair was very curly, but I always wished for straight hair and spent hours trying to achieve it. Lately, though, I’ve fallen in love with Raquel Welch’s Simmer Elite Petite, a soft, wavy style that might just be my new favorite.
Final Thoughts
Hair loss has been both a curse and a blessing. It brought anxiety and heartache—but it also introduced me to an incredibly supportive community and allowed me to rediscover my confidence.
And while I might not be fully ready to share this journey face-to-face with everyone in my life, I hope that by writing this, I can help someone else feel seen.
You’re not alone. And yes—you can look and feel like yourself again.
